When we were young, we were taught by our parents not to talk to strangers and not to accept any candy or whatever food from someone we don’t know since these strangers might hurt us and this is when I started doubting other people’s motives. I know that our parents are just protecting us, and as a parent myself, now I will teach the same thing to my son.
I grew up with that – not trusting someone easily, until I finished school and was already working everything changed. It started when my mom and I had a conversation and that she is asking my permission if we can lend someone (she barely knew) some money. I asked my mom if we can trust this person to return the money she is asking to borrow, and this was what she told me.
“When you were studying, I usually borrowed money from other people who barely know me too. They trusted me to return the money I borrowed even though they knew that I am a single mom and that I don’t have the capacity to return the money once I had it. If they did not granted me the money, you and your siblings will not have anything to drink and eat at that time. That’s the same situation now with this women who is asking for my help and I can see how she is struggling. I can’t sleep if I will not do something to help her. Besides if she will not return it, there is God to judge her in the end. “
Those words from my mom was the start of the change in my attitude and mind towards trusting other people. BUT, this feeling of trusting easily sometimes puts me in danger.
Okay stay with me, this is one of my unforgettable experiences of being betrayed.
I had an officemate before who asked me to help THEM get a cellphone plan. Since I have a good credit score (at that time) they asked me if they can use my name and apply the plan for them. Since (I thought) I could trust them, I did not think twice to help. My husband was in doubt of them but I still defended these people. Years passed by and I am happily staying at home when someone from a cellphone company called me and asking for my payment for an overdue
account. I was shocked when I heard that it was from the account of the people I have helped. I did not benefited from that transaction but since my name was on the contract that is why the cellphone company looked after me. I called those people who were involved and they told and promised me that they will pay their bills directly to the cellphone company. Well, that promise was BROKEN more than 10 times and that was a year ago. The transaction wasn’t closed until now. I cannot blame my husband if he is mad on what happened. I have no job and if the cellphone company is still pursuing us with the overdue transaction we will be the one to pay for it in the end.
I am telling you this story not to pity me (well, maybe just slightly) but I want to share this because I want you to know that there are advantages and disadvantages in trusting people easily. I also want to know your story and how will you know when to trust or not to trust other people.
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We have also been victimized by untrustworthy people in the past. We have a Bayantel line in the apartment we were renting in Cavite more than 10 years ago. We were soon giving up this apartment because we’re moving into our own house in Tanza, Cavite. My Nanay said there’s this family she knows who is interested to get that line. We agreed but the problem is, we haven’t arranged for the changing of the account name, so that account was still under my husband’s name. This family accumulated a telephone bill amounting to Php10,000, I think, and the person who promised to pay for that balance left their house without giving us a single centavo. Ergo, we paid for the entire amount, and my husband got really upset, and that was the day we promised we would never trust people that easily again.
awww Tetcha that’s bad!!! Grabe naman talaga! pano kaya sila nakakatulog ng mahimbing sa gabi no? Okay lang kung ginamit ang pera pang hospital pero for personal use di ba di naman tama yun! Bahala na si God sa kanila hayz
I seriously can relate with this sis. I used to lend money from one of my office mates before and up until now the promise of paying me was never fulfilled. Right now I don’t really mind anymore, I’d just think that it was my help for her family without waiting anything in return.
Honestly I don’t know when to stop trusting people as well… 🙁
good karma is on your way Maricel 🙂
I totally understand where you’re coming from. If the same thing happened to me, I’d be someone who wouldn’t trust people that easily. In the case of your mom, i think she feels she has a moral obligation, since in the past, people trusted her enough to help her willingly.
Personally, I’m not one who easily trusts people, because I’ve had my share of past experiences with betrayal 🙂
I understand where your coming from Pepper. Ang hirap lang talagang i-identify ang taong pwede i trust sa hindi 🙁
That sucks. And the same thing happened to me… cellphone din. My friend ended up not paying for “her” plan that was under my name. And worse, I didn’t tell my husband (we were still bf-gf that time). So when he found out, it was such a huge issue. And we ended up paying it so it wouldn’t hurt my credit. Haaayyyzz. But it’s my natural instinct din to see good in people so I trust easily. It’s like a blessing and a curse din minsan, hehe. Like Mars, I don’t know when to stop trusting people as well… I guess we’re kinda in the same boat too.
Anyhoo… I finally put up my Top10 List, and you’re on it. :0 Syempre, PMC!
sorry to hear that May! basta we believe in Karma and bahala na lang si God sa kanila.